Monday, December 31, 2012

Happy New Year...And A Little Reflection...

Happy New Years...

I have noticed most everyone I read has already put up their Happy New Year posts, so I am late to the party, but here goes!

I want to wish everyone who reads my blog and whose blogs I read a very Happy New Year.  I hope the upcoming year brings you everything you have wished for...even those deep down wishes that you have never expressed to anyone...even yourself (because sometimes those are the most important).  I wish you all love, happiness, success, and joy throughout 2013, and for all the years to come.  

I wish you great blogs to read, wonderful partners to play with, abiding love to cherish, amazing family moments to remember long into old age, and the sweetest of dreams in the darkest of nights.  You are all special to me, because, like my BD, you allow me to be who I am....and I am grateful for that.

And A Little Reflection...

Tonight, for me, has an aspect of sadness, as well as joy.  Much of my sadness comes from the fact that BD and I are not able to be physically together right now.  He is so much a part of me that it is hard to go through day to day life without seeing him.  My life was not all that it could be without him in it.  My heart had a hole exactly his size in it, and until I had him, that hole was never filled.  Now it is...but something is still missing.  His presence, his voice in my ear first thing in the morning, the feel of his hand caressing my hair in the middle of the night.  While I miss having a sex life (oh, Lord, do I MISS having a sex life!), that is such a small part of what makes me miss him.  His kindness, the love for me that I can see in his eyes and his heart every time he looks at me, his determination that I will not be my own worst enemy, his absolute and total belief in me and in the knowledge that I can accomplish anything I dream about.  Fixing coffee for him in the mornings.  Cooking his meals, so that I know he is eating healthy.  Loving him up close, instead of at a distance, because I know he is so alone where he is. 

We were able to talk on the phone tonight, which really boosted my spirits....while we were on the phone and for about an hour afterward.  After that, unfortunately, there was a crash...spirits falling to the ground at high speeds.  I'm not really sure why.  He has promised me two phone calls tomorrow...the first being at 9 a.m., so I really should be thrilled!  But I am not.  I miss him.  I miss him in ways I can't even describe, because they hurt too much.  He is the one person still living in this world who has faith in me no matter what, who trusts me beyond measure, who is proud of me every day....even when I am not proud of myself.  He SEES me like no one has ever been able to see me before.  He told me tonight that he knows me so well because I am his passion, his obsession, and his's his job to study me, and his joy.  That makes me feel so humbled....and so blessed to be a part of his world.  To me, he is happiness, peace, safety, and love...and I miss much.

Moving On Before I Completely Lose It....

New Years is always a time of resolutions, but I don't think I am going to make any concrete ones.  There are things I want to do in 2013:  Lose weight, Stop Smoking, Get Published.  But every single year, I make resolutions, and like most of the world, I give up on them by February (if I even make it that far!).  So this year, I am trying something new.

I found the above icon and it speaks to me.  I have so many goals, so many things I dream about and want to accomplish, but I have NO OOMPH!  (Definition:  OOMPH - the thing inside you that makes you put yourself out there, that makes you take the steps to accomplish your goals, instead of sitting back and wanting them without ever making any progress.)  I don't know if it is caused by a laziness gene, my tendency to procrastinate, or perhaps the absolute fear....the fear of ACCOMPLISHING my goals, which is ALMOST as strong as the fear of NOT accomplishing them.  Or perhaps it is depression....who really knows.  All I know is that the OOMPH is not there, and I need to get some! 

So...instead of making concrete resolutions, I have decided that the statement on the above icon is something I want to begin living by.  I want to go after what I want!  I want to ask for what I desire!  And I want to take, not just the first step, but all the steps to get me there!

So here I go, world!  Or, should I say here I come!

Happy New Year Everyone!!!



  1. oh darling this was such a rich post.

    i'm sorry you're apart, and i know it sucks.

    i'm sorry you felt like there was a crash after a high. I hate when that happens.

    I'm sorry things aren't the way we want them to be sometimes.

    but i'm sending you love, and hugs, and positive thoughts.

    i'm sending you companionship via blogland and friendship via comments... and I love that you found something that spoke to you - it was very meaningful and i wish you only good feelings for the year ahead!!

    *much love and hugs*

    1. Aw...fondles, you are always so sweet to me! Having spent the last day feeling so sad, you have nudged me into remembering the good things....friendship, love, and positivity....things could be worse...I could not have him at all! :-) You are such a good friend, and I am so glad I found you and your blog! Thank you for your lovely words and wishes...they are very much appreciated!

      *love and hugs* right back atcha!

  2. Happy New Year

    I cant really add much more to what Fondles has said, but i hope this year finds you acheiving everything you and yours want.


    1. I know what you mean, tori...she gave me some sympathy, then she gave me a push toward the positive. I am so lucky to have such good friends...of which I definitely count you as one! Thank you so much for your good wishes, and I wish the same for you and yours! You are an amazing woman and you deserve everything you desire!


  3. Happy New Year Cassaundra. I wish you much more time with BD in the new year. I wish you happiness and fulfillment, I wish you enough of all that nourishes you.

    1. Thank you, fiona! Right back to you and Sir Q! Your sweet wishes bring me such happiness. Thank you so much for being such a loyal reader/blogger/friend. You are all (the bloggers I read, lol) such amazing people, and I feel blessed to have found you!

      Happy New Year!

  4. I wish you a Happy New Year. I hope that you can spend more time with BD.


    1. Aww...joey, thanks so much! That is so sweet! Happy 2013 to you and yours....I can't wait to see what comes next on your blog!


  5. Hi Cassaundra- I too have those crashes- most times after the long calls and when I hit the replay button in my mind. But I try to just do something productive- as hard as it is. I wish you a wonderful year with BD and much happiness!


    1. Yeah, faithful....the crashes suck. I wish we could have the highs, but skip the lows. That would be great, lol! I just have a hard time getting myself out of the lows...but I have made some progress today on my goals (not actual progress, lol, more like research progress) and talked to BD a couple of times today, plus I beat the pants off my roommate in Yahtzee, I'm feeling pretty good about the start of 2013!

      All the best to you and yours!

  6. I so feel your pain. *hugs*

    And good luck on your goals!

    1. Aw, thanks, Kitty, for the hugs and the luck! I am getting ready to get started on that first step! I am so excited!

      *hugs* Thanks!